Image: Anna Gorin
“To have her here in bed with me, breathing on me, her hair in my mouth—I count that something of a miracle.”
This blog initially started out as a rant, a bit of a defensive article about the demonization of Succubi; I was hoping, am hoping, to shed some light on the wide range of uses we have outside of “Stealing sexual energy”.
Because this is such an important blog, and message, I have teamed up with my fellow Succubus Leslie Chepstow.
It is time the truth was set free, and it’s time the truth sets you free.
When people hear the word Succubus they think of a whore who steal Men’s sexual energy, or they conjure images of a scary She-Daemon who does the same.
Succubi FEED ON sexual energy, we do not always steal it. There is such a thing as consensual feeding—it comes in the form of a consensual, open minded partner.
Shocking, right? (Insert Sarcasm)
It seems like everyone in our community lately wants to act like Lilith is some goddamn trend, like she is the new “it girl” of the Craft but yet NOBODY wants to admit what she is: A ruthless, coldhearted, monster with an insatiable appetite. She is also Mothering, sexual liberation personified, and the epitome of a free Woman but please let’s not water her down like all the other Women in history—she has earned the fear she instills in others.
Leslie writes, The Lilith in me stands in the flames of truth, unashamed of who I am, stripped and naked of pretense. I will give you a chance to understand me but if you are so arrogant to think I am beneath you, I’m un-evolved, not equal–the Lilith in me says fuck you.
Everything is not all buttercups and rainbows. Sometimes its horror and abomination, rage without remorse. When Mother calls to me I tremble with anticipation. In fact, the synestheste in me looks forward to the color of unleashed rage splashed in my mind.
Ironically, it’s the darkest part of me that will do my highest calling.
We are multifaceted Succubi.
I care; I really, really do care about people, animals and entities. That is why I use most of the energy in positive ways but at the same time I absolutely do not give a single fuck about bad people, bad entities or negative energy in general.
I face my darkest self every. time. I go. to feed.
It’s not glamorous.
These entities are hideous and full of negative energy.
They have done some horrible shit and need to be stopped.
(One method is to seduce them, bind them and flay the energy from them. Then leave an empty space like a good dominatrix.)
Regardless, the energy eventually must be transmuted.
Which is why, contrary to popular belief, Succubi have something to offer this world.
We can take something utterly negative and horrific and turn it into something good through the power of Kundalini. Lilith teaches us the power of the Serpent and its ability to rule over all Beasts.
That’s why I take *pleasure* in stealing the energy from those negative beings; humans or otherwise.
These days for both Leslie and myself, it is “otherwise”. We both feed from entities—in diverse ways but we both feed from non-humans. That is what we call evolution; that is how you can be an Evolved Succubus. You would think people in the Magickal community understood that.
Now, let’s address some misconceptions about us and clear them up once and for all.
- Succubi crave power over Men: There is this common thought that we all think “men suck, I want to get even.” No men don’t suck—the Patriarchy sucks.
- I want to be a Succubi because it will automatically empower me; I will be like Lilith: For this reason, the glamorization of Lilith is dangerous; she is not here to hold our hand or grant us wishes. She requires, being a Succubus in general requires, grueling Shadow Work full of blood, sweat and tears. THAT’S the stuff that matters, the stuff that actually empowers people. Society has put too much emphasis on sex being a source of power and control that we miss everything else sexual energy can teach us.
- The so called Magickally Evolved, Sex Goddess, <insert any title> Women who are disgusted by Succubi:
Let’s delve into this deeper.
These women assume Succubi are unevolved, unethical, energy sucking whores.
These are also the same Women who constantly write about embracing the Dark Goddesses and literally PRAISE Lilith. Do they not KNOW who Lilith is?!
For example, I posted an article the other day from the Fb page WITCH—“8 Signs that you are a Magickally and Evolved Succubus”.
Almost immediately a Woman who claims to be a “Goddess of Sacred Sex” came through and commented: “A Succubus is someone who steals other people’s sexual energy. Yes, very Magickal and Evolved.”
These are the same Women who would never judge a group of people as a whole, they judge people as individuals–on merit and not just assume shit.
So, why, whyyyy are these so called enlighten evolved “Sacred Sex Goddesses” assuming such negative stuff about Succubi? It doesn’t fit their MO in other areas so why Succubi?
I think there is a deeper thing going on.
I truly believe they are hiding some sexual hang-up, some deep fear hidden in a sugar coat of assumption.
Why else would they treat Succubi different than any and every other group of people?
Throughout time Succubi have ONLY been written about negatively, sound familiar?!
Let’s talk about the double standard that we see, too.
Do you ever see male Vampires talked or written about negatively (Sanguine or Incubi)?
Oh no, plenty of people know of, write about and love male vampires but us female Vamps, we are “whores who have no ethics and are notorious man stealers”
The hate directed at us is ***always*** from Women; the disinformation spread is always from Women.
It’s like the Patriarchy seeped into their brain or something.
Women tear us down, lump us together and throw us all in the same goddamn fire. We are excluded from so much within our very own Witch community because people refuse to understand.
So, we either suffer and keep our truth to ourselves (Why hide aspects of who we are? We are proud to be this way!) or we suffer the deafening solitude.
The solitude is great and all but, feeling like I am starring in Mean Girls most days fucking sucks.
How do we feed?
We take energy and change it into a luminous pure energy during the cleaning fires of orgasm and then we use this pristine energy to heal people/places/things/animals.
Leslie writes, When I worked in this plane I would find a willing human energy donor and then use the energy to heal horses. Now that I’ve completed my goal in this plane, I’ve moved on to another plane; I, like Jaclyn, feed from negative entities. I use the same method to clean the energy but depending on the entity the energy can be immense. The excess energy is given to Mother, for the “war” and I believe she sends it out to her daughters that need healing. And I keep some of the energy for myself. People like Jaclyn and myself had to become Succubi. We expend a massive amount of energy because of our level of Magick.
The point of this blog is to show people that we are not all monsters, of course there are some in the bunch who abuse their power but that is with ANY GROUP OF PEOPLE.
Aspects of us are Monstrous but Maternal; we want freedom, and liberation for all beings.
The real issue is that the world is terrified of strong Women; especially strong Women who are sexually free, and empowered.
We stand proudly in our fire of truth, in our power of sex, and do the jobs that require real sacrifice and Shadow Work while others skim the surface.
This is who Mother created us to be.
This is who we are:
Not superior, just refusing to be treated inferior.