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“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
This is the second post in a series based off the requests I received on NR. I first would like to say that I normally don’t do “how to” or teaching posts because I don’t think I am a teacher, or Master; I do not think I am qualified to speak on most topics, and so many look to me as an expert. It’s so surreal that I am often am at a loss for words.
I speak from my experience, my research and my intuition. I do not claim to be perfect, or know it all, I don’t claim anything, really, other than I have found who I am, and I am living, breathing and chasing my truth. Truth is entirely subjective, and we need to realize that but that is another post.
With that little rant of sorts off my chest here is my take on surrendering control.
To put it bluntly, we can’t control a majority of what goes on in our lives, and even the most skilled Magickian or Witch knows this. The power comes from this realization, and finding loopholes through situations that seem to be set in stone, or irreversible. Our power comes from resilience, and a certain tenacity.
I may or may not have said this in a previous post, and if so then I apologize for sounding repetitive but when I was a little girl my Mom told me, “A great deal of life’s happiness comes from accepting what it, instead of dwelling on what isn’t.”
This goes for everything thing, in fact, the quote should be: “A great deal of happiness comes from accepting what is, instead of dwelling on what isn’t.”
We can’t control anything beyond our nose, it is poetic but so true. Beyond that point you no longer have power, you no longer should waste energy worrying about what happens beyond your space, but always be aware and present.
We can’t control other’s reactions, we can’t control society as a collective, or our Government’s, we can’t control an accident, a death, or the outcome of said accident. Hell, we can’t control that flowing anger that comes over the body when we stub our toe in the dark, at 3 am and we, or maybe just I, believe in that moment death is sure to follow.
All we can ever do is take a deep breath, face our ‘shit’ and deal with it.
In most cases I found that laughter and sarcasm is my way to deal with things, and I am often given dirty looks by deities I work with because of my informal approach to them and Magick. I guess like everything else, I make my craft my own, too. I think that’s how it should be, if I don’t incorporate my personality, and rebellion into my castings then they aren’t personal, I am not being true to me and my Magick won’t be as effective.
It gets tricky because everyone is so caught up trying to control the madness going on around them, for whatever reason: vengeance, spite, hatred, boredom, resentment etc. etc. that they have missed the point entirely. The reality is the only thing you can control is yourself, and once Self is controlled: mindful, present, and aware, then your reality will change.
Think of yourself as a movie projector, and control is the film reel, you currently are playing the reel that is about a movie where you control the world, and thus far it is not Oscar worthy, now switch the reel.
Put in a reel about a movie that is you controlling yourself, and what happens? Suddenly you are captivated. Oscar worthy! (Cheesy, I know)
Same idea with your perception.
A lot of people, especially those on the Left Hand Path do not want surrender, or they are like me and are little control freaks and find it next to impossible to surrender to anything. Or you know, they could be like me in the sense that they are balls of Chaos and madness, constantly seeking and asking why.
The thing is that the more you try to control the outside, the more out of control you really become on the inside. Instead of focusing your energy and intentions on the world, focus them within.
Focus on your reaction, and how you handle terrible situations, focus just as hard on situations that bring you joy. Practice gratitude, it’s a lifestyle, and being grateful does not take away from your individual sovereignty and it will absolutely help you on your path.
Make your Magick personal, do not worry about outside opinions, or judgement, none of that should matter and it shouldn’t matter because you can’t change it, you can’t change how, or what people think of you.
The only thing, literally, the only thing we can do is find our truth, and hold on to it as tightly as we can, allow that truth to become one with our bodies, and mold into our Soul. When we allow this domination to happen we become a powerhouse to be reckoned with.
No force created is stronger than that of the Individual, free thinker who requires no validation. So, surrender, their opinions don’t matter anyways, and we have nothing to prove. Blessed are the black sheep, the misfits, the artists and the rebels.