Lessons in Magick: How to Dance with Your Shadow

Howard Schatz

Image: Howard Schatz

“I embrace my shadow self. Shadows give depth and dimension to my life. I believe in embracing my duality, in learning to let darkness and light, peacefully co-exist, as illumination.”

Jaeda DeWalt

This post is going to be a follow-up, and in this piece I will give tips on how to incorporate, or integrate your Shadow Self into your whole. As usual when I write pieces like this I want to make it clear that I am not an expert, I am simply giving tips that have helped me personally on my path. If you try something and it doesn’t work, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are doing it wrong, it means that you may need to try a different method or approach.

We are all different; we learn, see, and perceive everything differently. So it should come as no surprise that personal evolution and growth on our Magickal path will be experienced differently, too.

If something I say here resonates with you, awesome, take it and allow it to help you on your path; leave the rest. You are, after all, establishing your personal Philosophy. I fully believe in breaking barriers, not sticking to labels or fitting into boxes; I think we should take pieces from many different paths and Pantheons and quite literally, form our own. Of course LHP practitioners have things in common, but when it comes down to ritual, ceremony, worship or the choice of non-worship, we are very, very different. That’s how it should be, this one-way mentality that has been the driving force behind the brainwashing of religion seems to be seeping its way into our community and it isn’t only ironic, it’s painful to watch.

I stated in one of my recent blogs that I was happy to see such a variety and abundance of articles on the Shadow Self lately and I am happy to see those articles, but a lot of them want to romanticize the Shadow and others want to completely over dramatize and it’s like, can we find a middle ground here?

The term Shadow, or Shadow Self is very popular among Esoteric and Occult circles; both RHP and LHP. I believe that a lot of us relate to the Shadow for two reasons: we either see that duality is essential or we are of the Shadows and that’s our natural state.

I believe that I am the latter, and as much as I try and strive for overall duality, it doesn’t seem like it’s in the cards for me. I seem to be all about polarity; simply one or the other, but never both at the same time. As hard as it is to integrate the Shadow into the whole, I think it may be harder to live as a Shadow. It feels like sometimes I have no identity other than this darkness that at times consumes me.

I have stated in previous posts that Carl Jung first came up with the term and Jungian Psychology is based off of his Archetypes—Shadow and Persona, Anima and Animus being the top 4 that all the others seem to branch off of. This is how I look at it any ways; it seems to help keep them all straight in my mind.

So how DO you integrate the Shadow into the whole? Well, first let me say that too much Shadow (either ignoring it or ignoring the light) can harm you spiritually, mentally and physically. Not enough Shadow will cause you to be unbalanced, vibrate too high, and you can become a doormat or dumping ground for others; sometimes we aren’t even aware it’s happening.

A big issue I see a lot of people having is that they (myself included) put Empathy and their (our) Empathic abilities above all else and it seems to rule how we live. I find myself constantly at odds internally with the Luciferian and the Healer; both screaming for different desires.

This brings me to my first tip: Establishing Boundaries. This is something that I am currently struggling with, and that is why it’s at the top of my list. Our Shadow is where our strength comes from, it’s where our ability to say “NO!” and mean it comes from; it’s where all of our fierceness, and wild resides. Jung believed our Persona was who we strive to be, and that our Shadow is our “Dark side” but I have come to see it as, our Persona is who we want the world to see us as, and our Shadow is our true Self. In my case, at least.

Having Empathy means that we literally feel what others do, so saying no can be really hard for us because not only are we feeling that they need us, but we are feeling their anger and/or sadness when we say no.

We are healers and people naturally vibrate towards those that can help them, but we can’t help everyone.

Let me repeat that, we can’t help everyone.

I mean not only in the literal sense of we can’t help everyone, some people are passed the point of help but we literally can’t help everyone. If we continuously give and give and give, we will have nothing left for ourselves. How is the Healer supposed to Heal themselves if there is nothing left?

I am a wounded Healer, but I am not willing to take on any more wounds on the account of another. I have to do what is best for me, what is best for my current state of mind, and my current desires. I owe nobody anything and neither do you.

Lay your boundaries and stick to them.

Second tip: Accept your Shadow. This doesn’t mean you have to understand it or Master it, it means that you accept you have a dark side and are willing to work with it. The faster you run, the tighter its grip becomes—stop running!

We have to accept that Life and Magick are not all light and love, butterflies and rainbows and that is okay. When we understand this we then have to get down to the nitty gritty of our Soul and dive into the Abyss and be okay with what we find.

We have to accept that some days we are going to be angry for no apparent reason, we have to accept that we are going to want revenge on those who cross us, we are going to hate, loathe and dislike people with all of our being; we have to accept all of this and more and still be able to look ourselves in the mirror.

Accepting these aspects of ourselves does not mean we become malicious people, it means that we are acknowledging this side of ourselves. Our actions dictate the type of person we are, not our thoughts.

Acceptance and Self-Awareness go hand in hand, and both are essential to integrating the Shadow Self.

When we accept we have a Shadow that is the first step on the path to knowing who we really are.

Third tip:  Create. Usually when we dive into our creative side we are able to see what our inner most thoughts, fears and desires are. This path of creativity can lead us into the Darker aspects because many Artists have heavy Shadows; creativity often comes with a heavy price: madness, chaos, solitude, introspection, introversion. All of which is part of my everyday life; blessed or cursed depends on perspective.

The creative medium does not matter, it can be woodwork, writing, painting, photography, graphic design, music composure, anything that allows the creative juices to flow and the mind wander will surely help the Shadow Self integrate into your overall being.

Fourth tip: Accept your Ego. This is a new lesson for me, and one that I was mind blown to have learned. For a long time, I believed that Ego itself was a poison and that there was no room for it on our path but I have now come to believe that if fed our Ego can become a great ally. The trick, of course, is don’t overfeed the Ego but Master it.

Just like our Shadow Self our Ego has great power, and is essential to our path and our growth. We cannot allow the Ego or the Shadow rule us or we venture into hostile and volatile territory where cockiness trumps confidence, and darkness becomes malice.

To acknowledge our Ego means that we are acknowledging our badassery, we are acknowledging our personal Power, we are acknowledging our Strength, but we are not considering ourselves to be Superior. This is the trick; this is always the trick.

We are Superior to no one, and nothing, but equal to all.

I hope my little words of wisdom help you hear the music and allow you to dance with your Shadow.

Lessons in Magick: Witchcraft Saved My Life

Daniel Waschnig​

Image: Daniel Waschnig

“The first time I called myself a ‘Witch’ was the most magical moment of my life.”

Margot Adler


This blog has been brewing inside the cauldron of my mind for a while now; finally I am ready to put it all together and tell my story.

I found the inspiration for this piece during a session of insomnia and aimlessly flipping through early morning TV– full of infomercials and Christian’s proclaiming how this or that church/program and God saved their life.

I am anti-religion but I know that it’s a necessary evil in our world for some type of structured belief system to be put in place for society to work properly; sad but true.

The problem with this is that religion is used as a form of control, division and far too often the dumbing down of humanity.

Within the more conservative, orthodox, fundamental, and/or extremist sects (which seem to be all religion has become) people lose logical, critical thought processes and individual thinking; this is when the herd mentality is seen, and displayed negatively; not for nature’s intent of it being survival instinct.

I believe it’s a true sign of character to question authority; it shows courage, but society tells us it’s wrong, that we always have someone to answer to, there is always an authority figure.

Call me crazy but, I not only had the notion and concept of being equal to everyone well established as a kid, it was also one of the main lessons taught to me by my late Grandfather.

You can believe you are equal to everyone and not come off pretentious, elitist, superior or condescending; all you have to do is show some compassion and respect.

People have lost respect for themselves, for each other and for this planet; respect for yourself and others, along with seeing the bigger purpose of fighting for this planet will allow you to transcend and ascend.

A point missed by so many.

There is so much healing and deprogramming that must occur for the human mind and soul to understand and accept there is something outside of themselves. However, when you get down to the bare bones of Magick you will come to the realization that YOU are all you will ever need; you never truly have to look outside yourself because everything and everyone is a reflection of you; the universe is inside of you as you are a inside it.

Religion has many dark sides, the main being that people fail to rely on themselves and take personal responsibility.

Nothing saddens me more than when people give credit for their hard work to God.

Such as, “I beat Cancer, God is good”—I am sure it had nothing to do with the 10+ years of schooling your Oncologist and team of Doctors went through.

My favorite recently was an acquaintance who had gastric bypass surgery to lose weight and practice a healthier lifestyle. I tip my hat to her.

If you are unfamiliar with the process, it’s not easy to get approved for this surgery and you need to show weight loss on your own, through diet and exercise before they will rubber band your stomach; I say it like that because no one wants to talk about the roots of the problem which are our appalling food industry, lack of fresh fruits and vegetables (at affordable costs) for those on and below the poverty line, and emotional binge eating–they only want to talk about the end product, “fat people” and how to shame them.

Needless to say 3 months after her surgery she looks and (assuming) feels fantastic but her posts on fb made me want to bash my head into a wall: “God is good, look at this weight loss.” Or “Won’t He do it, down another 20 pounds!”

Yes, because that is exactly what happened, God was so busy ignoring all the other woes, and ills of this world that he helped you with your weight loss, and had absolutely nothing to do with modern science, your strong will, and the drastic personal changes in your lifestyle.

Nope. It was all God.

The point I am trying to make is that I see testimonials of how Christianity or God saved someone, or helped someone along; I see praise being given time and time again to a Divine being, but never, or rarely do I see someone give some credit to themselves without being torn down by other’s who don’t understand that it is okay to pat yourself on the back, and give credit where credit is due.

There are stories galore about how Christianity saved people from other belief systems, addiction, bad situations, etc.

In fact, I recently read an article about a lovely Woman (much sarcasm) who gave a disgusting representation of the Craft, and said that her experience with Witches is what made her become a Christian. So much ran through my mind in that moment, what could have possibly happened within the craft to make this Woman run to a religion that has done nothing but persecute us, and everyone else that is not of their faith?

Fun Fact: A majority of “Witches” executed during Puritan Witch Trials were Christian, the actual Witches had fled to “New Salem” aka New Orleans when the Witch hunts began, or they found seclusion, solitude, and safety in the deep woods.

To put it simply, Christians were killing Christians.

Shocker.

I am going to say it loud and proud, Witchcraft saved my life.

The Craft helped me heal and understand my physical and mental illnesses, it saved me from many dangerous situations, it has allowed me to heal and hex, it has granted me a level of self-awareness I cannot put into words but most importantly, it saved me from myself.

Without Magick, I would be dead, and this is not something that’s questioned, or exaggerated, it is fact.

The thing with Magick is that it doesn’t come naturally or easily; when I say it doesn’t come naturally I mean that we have to put in work–I believe in natural Witches.

We are tested, brought to our limits and beyond; thrown into the Abyss where we learn to swim, or get swallowed up.

Magick itself is a test, it’s a challenge; those who choose to step on this path are tested by deities and Spirits we work with.

Often times though, the hardest test comes from the depths of our own psyche.

We lose concepts of comfort and security which are falsely placed anyways; we lose everything we thought we knew, everything we thought we loved, and all we can do is put the faith in ourselves, and our Craft that we will survive–that in our metaphorical death there will be purpose and rebirth.

I lost everything, quite literally, everything.

Once I truly devoted myself to Magick it was like a switch was flicked, a light had been turned on and suddenly the illusion that I had been living in, the lies I had been telling myself were seen for what they were: self-destructive behavior and suppressing my Magick.

I knew my Magick was there, I had experienced things since I was a kid, dabbling since I was 5, but I never fully embraced my Witch, I ran from her, she scared me; it took me years to face her and embrace her as part of my whole.

The process was the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life, but not a day goes by where I am not grateful for that pain; through suffering comes understanding.

I grow every day, I change every day, and I learn every day.

I am constantly evolving, constantly moving forward, seeking knowledge, and challenging myself.

It hasn’t been easy, and it isn’t easy now, but I have never experienced such life altering, mind blowing, soul shattering experiences before, and they continue to manifest in the most glorious ways.

Once your inner Witch awakens there is no denying her/him; you can suppress it for so long before the Universe will force your hand.

Once you have seen Magick, I mean, really seen Magick, there is no going back.

And, why would you want to?

Blessed Are The Witches.

Life Lessons: A Grand Epiphany

Sofia Ajram

Image: Sofia Ajram

“I never made one of my discoveries through the process of rational thinking”

Albert Einstein


I have been an addict for as long as I can remember, since the moment my eyes made contact with paper I knew that words were going to be my chosen substance. When I was 17 I discovered one of the grandest words of all: epiphany. I didn’t know at the time how important this word was, or is, I had no idea the advice being given to me in those halls of my high school, a moment that seems like lifetimes ago.

There was a teacher who taught Economics and Latin, he was an older gentlemen who can only be compared to being “my favorite book”. He was full of stories, and tales, equally funny and tragic, the depths of that man and his intelligence knew no bounds. My senior year happened to be his last year teaching so he was freely giving away bits of coded knowledge as if asking us to pass on his legacy and let him live on; a point missed by most of the robots I went to school with. If I were to transplant Mr. B back in time, he would have been a little old man, nose stuck in a book in the halls of the library of Alexandria.

In my free time (study hall or what was known as “free period”) I would seek him out to have conversations about the Occult, or politics. He was a Catholic, most of the town was, but he was very much into hidden or forbidden areas of knowledge (which made me like him more). I mean the man spoke fluent Latin “just because”. He was a very interesting being, and I was sad to hear of his passing not too long after I graduated in 2002.

During one of my last conversations with him he told me something that seems to mean more to me the further into the Abyss I go. He said, “an epiphany will give you clarity, or insanity.”

Let that simmer in your mind for a second, for those who would like to look at the definition while allowing your thoughts to collect, here you go.

“An epiphany (from the ancient Greek ἐπιφάνεια, epiphaneia, “manifestation, striking appearance”) is an experience of sudden and striking realization.”

Read that again, “an epiphany will give you clarity, or insanity”. I mean if there were ever a time for me to use the expression “mind blown” it would have been then, like right in that very moment.

As I heard it roll off his tongue, per my usual nerdy self, I said, “That’s a fun word.” After going to look up the actual definition I tucked the word into the back of my head, and hoped that someday I would be able to experience such a moment.

Never did I expect my life to be full of these moments, some greater in magnitude than others, the number only increases as time goes by; I suppose in hindsight that I have had many grand epiphanies in my life, I just didn’t realize them at the time. That itself is a lesson to be more present, to appreciate all the moments of life.

An epiphany when you are present and aware is in a league of its own; when you are aware of a moment of enlightenment, a moment when a paradigm shift suddenly happens and it shatters everything you thought you knew, there are no words to describe such a feeling. It’s like the Universe opens a door, pushes you through and closes it behind you, forcing you to accept the change, to make the move–

Forcing your hand in this proverbial chess game that is life.

Life is so funny, I feel like each day I come closer to understanding how utterly comical this existence is and that lesson is part of the reason I am here in the flesh to begin with. I am such a serious soul, I take everything seriously; the world, people, animals, feelings of others, the “bigger picture”–everything is serious business with me and it has always been like that. I laugh with the best of them, and I often find myself to be a sarcastic asshole, but overall, I am straight faced, lost in thought, or wandering off to a quiet place so I can analyze in solitude.

In my most recent analysis it was revealed to me that major changes needed to be made, and once these changes were made abundance would come to me. I took the opportunity of the recent, powerful Full Moon and decided to make those changes effective on that date, and man, oh, man has it turned into a snowball effect of prosperity, growth and illumination.

I have become motivated again, I have sold vials and earrings, I have made all the necessary steps to be a real business owner, and the legalities are taken care of. I have also begun the ridiculous process of photographing my inventory for my online shop.

It isn’t just the tangible or business side of things, it’s personal, too. I have found a great group of friends, most of whom were standing by my side the whole time but I was too blind to see, others are newcomers who I feel were sent to me so we could grow together; so we can empower each other.

I am learning to trust friendships, and people, but most importantly I am learning to trust myself. I have let go of past regret, and accepted future mistakes.  I have learned that Divine madness and enlightenment are true partners in crime. I have learned that I can do this because I am doing this. I have learned that I am stronger than I know, and that my heart is a goddamn warrior. I have learned that my intuition is the only opinion I need to be concerned with, and haters are of abundance these days. I have learned that I am the only person I need but it’s nice to have company on this journey, and it’s ok to fall because in the fall you appreciate flight so much more.

All that really matters is I have learned and that is the grandest epiphany of all.

Letting Go: A Personal Story of the Phoenix Rising

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Image: Katie Dawn aka Thy-Darkest-Hour, DeviantArt

“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.”

C. JoyBell C.


The Full Moon energy has proven to be extremely illuminating, and caused me to become very introspective; I reflected on my entire life it seems. There has been a lot going on in my personal life, and my professional for that matter; the journey that I am on is like a whirlwind at times, and a calm chaos at others, if that makes any sense.

It’s like it will be calm, but you can feel the tension of chaos wanting to rise, and cause ruckus at any given moment.

I have been hit with a ton of emotions, some new physical issues, battled a destructive glamour spell, and a psychic vampire after writing my post about them. On top of all that I have finally let go of my lover, then there was the loss of some friends, and death of my cat. Needless to say it has been a really rough 9 days, and my Soul is feeling it.

But in the midst of adversity, I shall find my strength.

And, I have.

I had blocked my ex, and a few friends, on my personal and both public pages, it was like that was all I had to deal with the pain of betrayal. I am not sure why my thought process was that my power somehow lay within that blocking feature; how ridiculous, how mundane, of me to find comfort, and solace in such a thing, but it is what it is. I then found out by a mutual friend that he had posted something(s) about me on his page, and it infuriated me.

“No, don’t give into that, don’t stoop to his level.” I had to repeat, almost chant to myself.

I could feel my Beast rising, stirring, and calculating from the depths of my being. I had to reign her in, but why? Why was I controlling her?

I decided to meditate on it, and the answer I received shocked me, but made so much sense.

It’s easy to react, duh, it’s a natural instinct but it takes courage, control, and self-awareness to stop the instinct, to step in the moment before the Beast goes for the throat; to know when the instinct is not going to be productive.

In this situation my instinct to react would prove to be wrong, and I would simply give him exactly what he wanted. I am not now, nor have I ever, spoke ill about my ex, or any of my former friends. It is not my style to do so, and besides my narcissist post, and this one, you will not see me addressing this issue.

I am writing this because I’m fucking hurt but, through the pain I have found the way.

I can’t forget, I can’t truly forgive until I no longer hate. I cannot hate my enemy, I cannot hate those who have hurt me because that is MY weight to carry, not theirs, and hate is heavy.

I have to remind myself that at one point I loved that man, and he was exactly what I wanted and needed, even if only for a moment in time. Same goes for my former friends, I will never disrespect those good memories by dwelling on the bad, furthermore, talking ill of them.

The fact that the route he chose was to speak ill of me, speaks volumes about his own character, and I need not say anything more about it.

Again, I loved that man, and I would be lying to you, and to myself if I sat here and I said I didn’t still love him now because I do. Love is not and never has been enough, and ironically I said that to him more times than I can count since the very beginning of our relationship.

So, today, I unblocked him and my other friends from NR and DW, along with my personal page. If they choose to come and cause drama, then they can be found back on the banned list. Otherwise, I no longer want to carry that weight, that hate, that stress.

Not my circus, not my monkeys.

While on this path of realization it came to me that I was still carrying around a hatred, and a heavy one at that.

I hated pieces of myself.

Not on a physical level, although as a Woman that is something I will always struggle with no matter how much self-confidence I have. The hatred I speak of was about the bad decisions, or my late blooming with the craft, both Magick and writing; there was a ton of residual hate towards myself, hate I thought I had dealt with.

Hatred of Self is the heaviest of all burdens to carry, and I didn’t want it anymore.

I don’t want to hate them (my former lover and friends) or my past.

Every mistake was a lesson, and every lesson was a blessing.

So cliché, so fucking corny, so Christian-like to say, but so goddamn true.

I can’t regret the fact that I fell in love, no matter how he acts now, no matter how I think his current behavior makes me look bad, I can’t worry about that. I can’t worry about the gossip, I guess if they are talking about me, I am doing, or have done, something right, something to make an impression.

I can’t hate myself, I can’t hate the very temple and mind that makes me who I am; I have to embrace my curves and embrace my crazy.

So, I sit here and reflect back on an eventful life, planning future adventures, and remaining grateful for all the good, and bad that is currently my reality. I will not be brought down by others, and I will not feed into the bullshit, I will rise above as I have always done.

I am a Phoenix, after all.

Surrendering Control: Why We Should Accept Submission

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Image: Rhys Roberts

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”

Lao Tzu


This is the second post in a series based off the requests I received on NR. I first would like to say that I normally don’t do “how to” or teaching posts because I don’t think I am a teacher, or Master; I do not think I am qualified to speak on most topics, and so many look to me as an expert. It’s so surreal that I am often am at a loss for words.

I speak from my experience, my research and my intuition. I do not claim to be perfect, or know it all, I don’t claim anything, really, other than I have found who I am, and I am living, breathing and chasing my truth. Truth is entirely subjective, and we need to realize that but that is another post.

With that little rant of sorts off my chest here is my take on surrendering control.

To put it bluntly, we can’t control a majority of what goes on in our lives, and even the most skilled Magickian or Witch knows this. The power comes from this realization, and finding loopholes through situations that seem to be set in stone, or irreversible. Our power comes from resilience, and a certain tenacity.

I may or may not have said this in a previous post, and if so then I apologize for sounding repetitive but when I was a little girl my Mom told me, “A great deal of life’s happiness comes from accepting what it, instead of dwelling on what isn’t.”

This goes for everything thing, in fact, the quote should be: “A great deal of happiness comes from accepting what is, instead of dwelling on what isn’t.”

We can’t control anything beyond our nose, it is poetic but so true. Beyond that point you no longer have power, you no longer should waste energy worrying about what happens beyond your space, but always be aware and present.

We can’t control other’s reactions, we can’t control society as a collective, or our Government’s, we can’t control an accident, a death, or the outcome of said accident. Hell, we can’t control that flowing anger that comes over the body when we stub our toe in the dark, at 3 am and we, or maybe just I, believe in that moment death is sure to follow.

All we can ever do is take a deep breath, face our ‘shit’ and deal with it.

In most cases I found that laughter and sarcasm is my way to deal with things, and I am often given dirty looks by deities I work with because of my informal approach to them and Magick. I guess like everything else, I make my craft my own, too. I think that’s how it should be, if I don’t incorporate my personality, and rebellion into my castings then they aren’t personal, I am not being true to me and my Magick won’t be as effective.

It gets tricky because everyone is so caught up trying to control the madness going on around them, for whatever reason: vengeance, spite, hatred, boredom, resentment etc. etc. that they have missed the point entirely. The reality is the only thing you can control is yourself, and once Self is controlled: mindful, present, and aware, then your reality will change.

Think of yourself as a movie projector, and control is the film reel, you currently are playing the reel that is about a movie where you control the world, and thus far it is not Oscar worthy, now switch the reel.

Put in a reel about a movie that is you controlling yourself, and what happens? Suddenly you are captivated. Oscar worthy! (Cheesy, I know)

Same idea with your perception.

A lot of people, especially those on the Left Hand Path do not want surrender, or they are like me and are little control freaks and find it next to impossible to surrender to anything. Or you know, they could be like me in the sense that they are balls of Chaos and madness, constantly seeking and asking why.

The thing is that the more you try to control the outside, the more out of control you really become on the inside. Instead of focusing your energy and intentions on the world, focus them within.

Focus on your reaction, and how you handle terrible situations, focus just as hard on situations that bring you joy. Practice gratitude, it’s a lifestyle, and being grateful does not take away from your individual sovereignty and it will absolutely help you on your path.

Make your Magick personal, do not worry about outside opinions, or judgement, none of that should matter and it shouldn’t matter because you can’t change it, you can’t change how, or what people think of you.

The only thing, literally, the only thing we can do is find our truth, and hold on to it as tightly as we can, allow that truth to become one with our bodies, and mold into our Soul. When we allow this domination to happen we become a powerhouse to be reckoned with.

No force created is stronger than that of the Individual, free thinker who requires no validation. So, surrender, their opinions don’t matter anyways, and we have nothing to prove. Blessed are the black sheep, the misfits, the artists and the rebels.

Wounded Soul

Keely Varada

Image: Keely Varada

“Another secret of the universe: Sometimes pain was like a storm that came out of nowhere. The clearest summer could end in a downpour. Could end in lightning and thunder.”

Benjamin Alire Sáenz


I had posed a question to NR a few weeks ago asking what topics my readers would like me to discuss, and this post is a product of one of those requests. I had written about Soul Wound’s when I first started writing for DW, but I don’t think I did the topic much justice. Some of you are probably wondering what a Soul Wound is, I think it is important to point out another term, Fragmented Soul. A majority of us are or know someone who is a fragment. I think this is why Americans are so overly medicated with anti-depressants. This is my personal opinion, and it is important to note that none of the claims in this post are backed up by any medical doctor. I am speaking from my experiences with fragments, and my personal account having been one.

A Soul Wound is when an event/experience causes a piece of your Soul to leave in order to survive the trauma. Some examples of such events are accidents, rape, surgeries, a relationship ending, and even a hex from a Witch. The term itself is used mostly among healers, primarily Shaman’s and other Holy people. It was not until fairly recently that the term Soul Wound became popular in modern Christian culture, and you can find articles scattered all over the internet from the Christian perspective.

I was a Fragmented Soul, and what is this you ask? Well, a Fragmented Soul is the end result of a Soul Wound, you are quite literally fragmented. The piece that decided to leave will usually come back on its own free will. Think of this piece as being just as powerful as the whole, therefore, the piece has free will just like the whole.

In some cases a Shaman or Witch will step in and can do a retrieval spell, or healing. Both are tricky to do, and it would take a skilled practitioner to even think about taking on such a task.

The main part of the question asked to me was how do you know if you have a Soul Wound? And, how do you get it back?

There are usually warning signs, I think it is safe to say that 99.9% of people born are whole Soul’s and it takes an event, or trauma to become a fragment. The born fragmented soul is rare, and tortured; I don‘t mean in some poetic, metaphoric way, I mean literally a tortured Soul. At least if the trauma happens in this incarnation you can pinpoint where the trauma took place, in order to trace the steps to a previous incarnation is next to impossible, and can only be done by the individual breaking through at least 12 levels of “consciousness”. The trip back would probably cause more damage than living a life as a fragment.

The telltale signs of a fragmented Soul is depression, addiction, behavioral issues, insomnia and misplaced anger. The subject will be unable to live a fulfilled life, and will feel the need to fill this void until the demon is faced.

I personally had “daddy issues”, sexual abuse in my past, and abandonment issues. It started off as mood swings, which wasn’t really that much of a red flag for me because I was always moody. Hello, Cancer? It escalated in my late teens (18-19) with a slight rebellion, you know, smoking cigarettes, staying out all night, dating men I was not supposed to be dating. Hell, I even moved across the country.

It was not until my mid-twenties that I even began to think about looking within myself, I wanted to blame everyone else except myself. Not that I was to blame for what happened to me, but I didn’t want to face myself, I was being a coward—eventually being a coward is not an option.

Once you face your demons, once you start to get your pieces back (for me I was missing more than one) you don’t have a crutch anymore. You don’t have that card, you know the one I am speaking of, that card you pull when you want pity or sympathy, attention, or when you need an excuse for something: “Yeah, well (insert tragic event here) happened to me! That’s why I am behaving like a raging bitch!” Then you follow this with the ugly cry, and it will literally get you out of any situation, or accusation that you might be facing.

C.O.W.A.R.D

Coward.

Save your judgements I am not the only one who has done this, I may be one of the few willing to admit aloud, but either way, this is a no judgement zone.

So, how did I get the piece back? Or, how do YOU get your piece back?

Sure, you could totally visit a Shaman and have that person do the work for you, but it won’t be as effective. That being the exact reason that I did not go to someone to get healed. I am not undermining any Shaman’s out there, but I personally think people should do the work themselves, or at least attempt to.

This usually requires meditation, and can be the act of meditation or something as simple as finding time for yourself that is just for you. You must make time for your thoughts, and then silence them.

Once you get to this place, you start to stir the pot, and stir some more. Drudge up everything that has sunk to the bottom, and start grabbing pieces at random.  You have to put the pieces together, adjust them and try again. You have to accept what happened to you, you have to face it, you forgive, and then you move on. The last two are tricky, and take the longest time to follow through with.

Some other forms of therapy that are effective are Reiki, crystal therapy, yoga, binaural beats (I personally hate them) and talk therapy (Counselor, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, even a Social Worker) because sometimes a medical professional needs to be consulted to rule out all possible causes, but also they can help. I know I learned a ton when I was in therapy, and often use the skills acquired to get by in life.

The whole process is not easy, and a lot of people would prefer to walk around with pieces missing than face themselves. I hate the term broken because to me it means something beyond repair, and none of us are beyond repair.

We are all just a bunch of souls trying to find our way through the rabbit hole.

I am going to link you to a few articles, some a little more extreme than others if you wish to further explore this. I think the summary of it all is, you have to face the pain, then heal it.

http://www.sandraingerman.com/soulretrieval.html

http://ascensionglossary.com/index.php/Soul_Fragmentation

http://www.kondor.de/shaman/soulloss.html

In-To-Me-I-See (Intimacy)

Celebrations of Sensuality by Artfold

Image: Dani Fehr (ArtofDan)

“It is when you lose sight of yourself, that you lose your way. To keep your truth in sight you must keep yourself in sight and the world to you should be a mirror to reflect to you your image; the world should be a mirror that you reflect upon.”

C.JoyBell C.


Last week’s full moon in Capricorn has completely shifted my life, in every way possible. I normally am effected in a negative way during this time of the month, which I call my “lunar menses”. I guess since I no longer have my period, the Universe had to give me something to fill the void. This time around though I was reflective, introverted and blocked. As I sit here and write this I am still battling to break through the blockage. Only a writer will understand what it’s like to battle with oneself, a conflict that is never ending but without it, we die.

I think we all can benefit from moments of self-reflection, only when we see ourselves clearly can we begin to see anyone else. I have always seen myself, I have always seen who I was and who I wanted to be, I never needed definition, or approval from others; I have always been self-sufficient.  In recent months I have lost my independence, my sass, my attitude, my voice, my heart, my passion..

I lost myself. I lost the very traits that make me, me.

I lose myself when I become comfortable, when I neurotically attempt to control the chaos. Nothing good has ever come from being comfortable, though; a motto I once held in life, in love, in sex, in my career, everything. That piece of me seems to have drifted off into some netherworld, and I so desperately need to get it back.

I had an epiphany of sorts on Monday, and it was in a vulnerable moment in the bathroom, after my shower that I realized I needed to find myself, and it was becoming an urgent matter. I have to take the leap off the cliff and trust in myself, and my wings, to get me to my next destination in life. I thought I had everything planned out, but it looks like I am going to be rerouting my path.

I had taken a hot shower because my Kundalini was acting up, as it has been doing for a few weeks. It was business as usual: get out of the shower, wrap my hair in one towel and the other to dry myself off and wrap around me while I do whatever else needs to be done. Sounds harmless enough, normal enough, right?

Except the towel began to fall, in my bathroom, where only I was, in a house where it was only me, and I grabbed that towel like my life depended on it.

What the fuck?

The thing is, I am not a prude, a naked body does not bother me; my naked body does not bother me, hell, I sleep naked. Something else was going on here, and I was going to get to the bottom of it.

After I had done my little kung fu move to avoid facing my nakedness, I purposely dropped my towel and I stood there in the mirror and forced myself to look at my naked body, a body that has been through so, so much.

I sat there and traced my scars, and caressed my imperfections, I got a good look at the ink on my skin that I never pay enough attention to, and then I forced myself to look deep within.

The tears began to fall, and they fell with a vengeance. I was full on “ugly cry” in my bathroom within a few minutes.

How could this have happened? How did it happen? What was I going to do to change it?

The answer is I didn’t lose myself on the account of anyone else, I lost myself because I was too caught up dealing with everyone else, along with the problems of the world that I forgot to deal with me. I disobeyed my number rule, which is to always self-preserve.

It’s easy to blame other people, but I can only blame myself. If anyone was allowed to affect me, or change, define or confine me (you guys know that is my favorite saying because definitions do confine) then it’s because I let them. People can only cage me if I walk willingly through the door. Again, I have no one to blame but myself.

On the full moon I did a little bit of grounding work, and then I sat in my room naked with incense lit, candles burning, and in the depths of darkness I waited, and waited, and waited some more. After about 2 hours of waiting, I heard her, faintly, but she was there. Then the warm sensation began, it was coming from my Heart Chakra, then slowly rising up through my Crown.

I could hear my inner voice starting to come back quietly then slowly increasing intensity. I sat and meditated for hours and became acquainted with my inner self and my body once again. I allowed the two to become one on their own accord. I got up and put some music on and began dancing in my room, it was inhibited at first, I had to keep reminding myself that I need to claim “me” back, my sensuality, my sexuality, and in this moment I need to let my body move freely to the music; I need my body to flow like water. And, so it did.

It was an intense, emotionally powerful, and extremely profound moment for me. I feel one again, I feel like all my pieces have been put in place, and all the words I was holding back from my loved ones have been brought to the table. I feel so much lighter, I feel so much clearer, and now that I have her back, even though it is an ongoing process, I will never let her go again.

I am my best lover.

Truth Comes to Light

Jessica Lutz

Image: Jessica Lutz

“Chaos is what we’ve lost touch with. This is why it is given a bad name. It is feared by the dominant archetype of our world, which is Ego, which clenches because its existence is defined in terms of control.”

Terence McKenna


I’m not going to make any friends with post, for that I am sure; I guess it is a good thing I don’t write to make friends, I write to make people think. I sometimes feel that I think so much, about every single thing possible, so that others don’t have to. It’s like, if I analyze it, rip it apart, drive myself mad and tell of my findings, it may save another the pain. It takes a certain person to be able to exist in Chaos and I thrive in Chaos because it flows in my veins, while most dissipate into it.

I am going to write about some things that have been on my mind for a very long time, and I have written about them in the past but I didn’t do the topics any justice, or myself for that matter. I know that writing about the Occult I open myself up to criticism, and others opinions. I will usually debate, and I will always hear another’s opinion on the matter, we are all experiencing this world differently, and to deny listening to another is like denying them to tell their story.

I will never deny anyone the right to speak their truth.

I am going to speak some truth that many of you will probably not like, or deny all together, maybe you have never thought about it to begin with, or maybe you will know exactly what I mean. It is my hope, my intention that this piece will open your mind, and allow you to look deep within yourself. Allow yourself to get back to the roots of Magick because our community has gone far off track.

Because I do not want to come off as if I have a superiority complex, or that I am trying to tell anyone how to be, or whatever, I am going to tell you my story on the subject of ego and other Pagans/Witches/Otherkin. I am not at all innocent in allowing ego to take over, and I have experienced obnoxious amounts from other people. So, I have seen, literally felt, both sides.

This morning there was a situation that left me disappointed in a fellow Sister Witch, and I became so angry that I could not allow my Beast to stay inside, so here she sits with me to write this piece. I will not go into details about the situation but it had to do with ego, and a paranoid fear. While I understand why my Sister felt this way, her reaction and her Sister Witch’s reaction was uncalled for, and not how we should conduct ourselves.

I get it, if anyone gets ego, or fear, it’s me. If you have followed my writing since the beginning you have seen me call people out, and strut my stuff, as if I was the baddest in town. The Universe, however, did not find my display entertaining and made sure that I did not do it again. I have been that Witch who has made fun of Wiccans for being “light and fluffy” or “fluff bunnies”. I have been the one who dismisses others opinions because I thought I knew best. There is nothing that I have not experienced in regards to ego, and allowing it to take root in my mind.

I shut it out now, though. There is no room for ego on my path, it is simply not part of my journey.

There is pride, and that is something else entirely. Maybe another time, another post.

Let me get to the point..

Here are the issues we are facing as a community, and I am going to bring them to the surface because I am sick and tired of running into them at every corner. First, let me say that making fun of Wiccans, or any other belief, is unacceptable behavior, we should handle ourselves better, and it is the very intolerance that we experience from society. We cannot allow an eye for an eye mentality become the norm, we are better than that.

Gandhi said, “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.”

We should not power ourselves with insults, we must power ourselves with knowledge, and know our craft. So, if there is a point to defend ourselves our Magick and defenses are top notch. The truth is, when we insult, make fun of, or belittle another, no matter how funny or how true the statement may be, it says more about us and our weak insecurities than it does about them.

Second, fear of Magickal attacks from fellow Witches seems to be a common theme. I want to bring some of you back to a level mind on this topic. A true Magickal attack is not easy to do, it takes skill, determination and true, pure intentions. This is not something that is a common occurrence, but it seems to be a common fear. Yes, we are at risk from spirit we work with, but to walk around defensive of every Witch and/or Otherkin we come across is not productive, and if we continue like this we will never learn anything, and we will always be alone.

To those who do use their Magick for attacks, big or small, that is not what Witchcraft is. I practice dark arts, and there is just as much healing, and support for other Witches as there is hexing, cursing, and the like. Magick should be something personal for you, not a skill you learn to harm other people. Get it?

We, Pagans, Satanists, Luciferians, Witches, Wiccans, Occultists, Otherkin, Heathens, Heretics, and any other label or non-label you can think of, are already ostracized by society. We already walk a lonely path, and while it may be hard to find someone who thinks exactly like we do, we can find likeminded individuals who help us grow. We can find others who know what it’s like to be made fun of, or ridiculed for having a non-conventional Philosophy. We can build a support system so that in times of stress, pain, and suffering we have counsel, we have protection, we have love and we have support.

But, we don’t do that, we don’t trust other people. Everyone thinks everyone else is fake, “fluffy”, or is out to get someone else, and blah blah blah.

None of this has to do with Magick, all of this gossip has to do with HUMAN insecurity coming through and using Magick as the guise. Only those insecure in themselves, their Magick, their shields, their defense, and their energy reading ability would walk around constantly scared of Magickal attack.

I know because I used to be like this, but now I am not. I took a long, deep look in the mirror, I faced my demons, I worked on my craft, I studied, I practiced, and I shed bled, and tears. This is the only way to freedom, you must shed your old self.

Let’s all take a collective deep breath.

Spiritual attacks are real, and I am in no way down playing them, but not every Witch you meet is out to get you, or strong enough to do so anyways. Come on guys, like I said, we can do better. We have to do better, it is our Magick that is going to save this place, but none of us can do it alone.

The next topic I want to discuss is ego. I have fell victim to this, and I was left embarrassed and disgusted by my behavior. I am here to help people, and nothing more. I want to write about my experiences in order for everyone to be as free as I am. When ego came into my life it wasn’t about the grand scheme of things anymore, it was about me, and there is no me. I am everything and nothing, I am the Alpha and Omega, I am the darkness and light. I am part of the cosmos, and to put myself before my soul’s purpose is something I cannot do.

Ego feels good, it is a momentary satisfaction but that is all that it is, a moment in time. It does nothing but make the other person feel like shit just to build yourself up. As someone who has played both roles, I can say that this is no way to be.

The thing I want to really say is, we have to start accepting others for who they are. We cannot accept them with conditions, or if they fit into a mold, we must be willing to accept all those who wish to walk this path. I can say that nothing has been more rewarding than my spiritual journey, and if I can help others find the strength to start forging their own then my job here is done.

We are all different, no two of us are alike, and that in and of itself is a fucking beautiful thing. If we do not begin to do better we will not be better, and if we can’t be better than what are we doing on this stupid rock to begin with?

Epiphanies from an Insomniac Seer

Manuel

Image: Manuelestheim,DeviantArt

“4 am—if I’m ever up that early, it’s because I’m up that late.”

Jarod Kintz


I write about my experience as an insomniac often, it is actually during these times that I figure the most out about myself, about my life, my feelings, and things to come. The trouble with insomnia mixed with a dash of Divine madness is that the insomniac is a tight rope walker, and at any given time can drop and fall into a pit of emotions that one was not quite ready, or equipped to deal with. I think being able to function after an entire night awake, or even several nights awake; as is the case with me, is an art form. I truly mean that, when I tell people, especially my Doctor’s how long I stay up the looks on their faces are priceless. The response is always the same, “I don’t know how you do it.”

Because I don’t have a choice.

It really is that simple, as much as I love my time awake, I would love to be able to sleep once in a while. It has gotten to the point where I am finally willing to undergo the sleep study to prove to my Doctor that it is not sleep apnea. I have none of the symptoms of sleep apnea or of being distressed during sleep. I do not have high blood pressure (I did at one time, though), I do not have circles or bags under my eyes, I do not snore, I do not wake up gasping for air—because I don’t fall asleep! I don’t have excess inflammation in my body, I have had the tests done. There, literally, is no medical reason for me staying awake.

I just do. I just am.

I think being awake and staying awake are two different things, though. I am awake, I don’t even get tired anymore, and the 3 valerian root I take at bedtime do nothing anymore for sleep, although they do help with my anxiety. I take tinctures, and drink herbal teas. I meditate, and have even tried to masturbate, and still no sleep comes. So I finally just surrender to it, and since I surrendered I am much less stressed over not sleeping. I think once you accept something, it just is, there is no need to worry about it because it is already figured out. You know?

I also think that awakened Souls, specifically Witches, Occultist’s and Seekers, vibrate on a different frequency than others, we are influenced by planetary shifts, and the moon phases. Why, you ask?

Because we have accepted that we are part of the Cosmos, that we are part of the grand scheme of things, and that this life, this current experience is but a blip on the radar, a literal, moment in time.

I think acceptance is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves; the hardest, but the greatest.

When I was a teenager my Mom told me something that has never left my mind, even when I didn’t understand the true meaning. She told me, “A great deal of life’s happiness comes from accepting what is, instead of dwelling on what isn’t.”

A truly profound statement reading it now, in my current mood, and mind frame. I knew the depth of the statement, but it wasn’t until I started to put it into practice that the full effect was seen and felt.

Last night was night number 4 with truly no sleep, and usually this would cause darkness, and a heavy emotional state, but this time it hasn’t. I have accepted that my body, my mind, just don’t want to sleep. I do miss my astral adventures, but I have found that the visions, and sight during the day have become much stronger. I think that is what they are trying to show me, they want me to focus on my other forms of sight, not just what I see on Astral.

Cue alarm bells in my head.

Before I went to sleep I sprayed my room with lavender, put the nighttime calming cream on, took my California Poppy tincture, drank my sleepytime tea, and took my 3 valerian root. For any normal person they would be knocked out, but for me, I lay awake for hours. My mind has stopped racing as much at night, and this is a recent development.

I just am there, awake, experiencing the world while everyone else sleeps. A surreal time, for anyone, but I feel particularly for me.

The entirety of last night was strange, it started when I checked NR’s Facebook page, and at 11:11 I received 999 likes. Now, I usually would smile at this, but it wasn’t funny last night. I feel defeated that I am just awake, doing nothing, feeling nothing, unable to process anything. I try to get up and write, or color, watch TV, read, something, anything, but nothing helps, I get bored and/or frustrated and the feeling of defeat comes over me, and I just surrender. When I surrender I feel their eyes, which in turn gives me an uneasy feeling because some of these eyes are not ones that I am used to, and as you guys know, I am not very welcoming to new guests.

Even still, I lay there last night tossing and turning until suddenly I had this intense urge to get up, “GET UP! GET UP! GET UP!” I heard from the darkness, and I felt an actual push on my back. I open my eyes expecting to feel something, or see something, but nothing was there. I checked the time, and kid you not, it was 3:33.

This same feeling happened when I got up at 6:03. It’s like an energy is pulling me, making me acknowledge these numbers. When I do there is nothing there, so I just acknowledge the Universe now, and say how grateful I am. I mean, what else is there to do?

As I sit here now, at 9:36, another powerful symbolic number, I feel like I am existing in two places, like a piece of me is somewhere else. I can see her, hear her, feel her, and whatever she is doing is causing a huge vibration, a shift in my current consciousness. The weird thing about all of this though, is I am calm, I am not anxious, or frustrated. My emotions have not even plummeted into the darkness, which is usually the case.

I’m just here.

Awake.

If you would like to read about any numbers mentioned:

http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2012/08/angel-number-1111.html

http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2012/04/angel-number-999.html

http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2011/08/angel-number-333.html

http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2011/10/angel-number-603.html

http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2012/02/angel-number-936.html

Open Your Eye

Third eye

Image: Giga Kobidze

“The paradox of reality is that no image is as compelling as the one which exists only in the mind’s eye.”

Shana Alexander


I had an open forum of sorts and asked the followers on Dear Wicked what they would like to hear from me, or what they are looking for when it comes to topics we discuss. I have written plenty about myself, and I think it is time to start sharing some of the knowledge that I have stored in my brain. I would like to note that I am by no means an expert, and everything I write about will be from my personal experience and research that I have done. We are all individuals, and our experiences will be unique. I ask that no one compare themselves to anyone else because that is a path that will only lead you to disappointment or destruction. The topic of this first post is how to open, or activate your third eye. I would like to say that if you have to “force” your mind’s eye to open, then perhaps it is not the proper time to do so, you don’t want an adverse effect to happen.

The third eye, known as the pineal gland in the medical world, is “a small endocrine gland in the vertebrate brain. It produces the serotonin derivative melatonin, a hormone that affects the modulation of wake/sleep patterns and seasonal functions. Its shape resembles a tiny pine cone (hence its name), and it is located near the center of the brain, between the two hemispheres, tucked in a groove where the two rounded thalamic bodies join.” (Wikipedia) They continue to describe the pineal gland as the pineal body, epiphysis cerebri, epiphysis, conarium or the Third Eye, with the latter being the aspect most spiritually-minded people focus on. The gland itself is activated and stimulated by light, and it has been studied that just 15 minutes of daylight, or simulated daylight has a significant effect on the decalcification of the gland.  By the time the average person is 17 years of age, they have significant calcification, this is usually caused by fluoride in dental products, and municipal drinking water.

If you Google “how to decalcify your pineal gland” the results show page after page giving detox’s and herbs to help decalcify and awaken the gland. I am going to tell you guys what has helped me, and how I personally expanded my own consciousness by opening my mind’s eye.

The first most important thing to do to help reverse this process is to avoid products with fluoride in it. I think that for a lot of people this can be challenging because all public drinking water in the U.S has fluoride in it, and none of these water supplies are routinely regulated, thus there is not exact measurement only “guesstimates”. When we are children it is important for dental products that contain fluoride because it does help teeth. I have heard every conspiracy theory regarding this poison being put in our drinking water, and none of those water filtration systems remove fluoride. There are two kinds of drinking water that can speed up the process of decalcification and are fluoride free; distilled, and alkaline water. I have been able to easily find distilled water at my local grocery store, and Walmart. However, suddenly I cannot find alkaline water. I used to buy it in bulk when I would see it, but suddenly I can’t find any. But, it is out there. There is a company based in Brooklyn, NY called Wat-ahhh, and they carry a variety of “brain healthy” water. They have a website, check them out. As for the dental products, unless you have really bad dental hygiene, there is no reason for your products to have fluoride in them. When you are looking for toothpaste, and mouth wash just simply read the ingredients. If you really want to be gung ho about this, you can wash your fruits, veggies, and any other prep for food with the alkaline and/or distilled water. If you are cooking with it, not to freak anyone out but some studies show our food can actually absorb the fluoride.

Secondly, I believe our diet is the most important aspect to awakening the mind’s eye. This is my experience, and you may take from it what you wish. I have cut out red meat, I found that the vibrations were too heavy and lowered me down, even with a blessing while cooking, and before eating. I have never been a fish person, I do occasionally like Sushi. I do eat chicken, and pork but am very picky about the meat. I have a high protein diet, it is what works for me; I get protein from many other places than just meat. I think that you cannot have enough fruits, and veggies. They are perfect raw, steamed, grilled, baked, and any other way you can imagine, there are so many things you can do with fresh products, make sure to buy local. When it comes to produce, there is much debate over organic, and non-organic foods. This is the rule I have learned to go by, if you can buy from a farmer’s market, then go! I think it is great to support anything local. Also, you can talk to the grower! However, this is not something tangible for many people. If you can buy all organic then good for you, but if you can’t, then you do whatever you can do. I have learned that frozen fruits and veggies are easy for me being a city dweller. I put frozen fruit; berries and such, in the microwave for 1 minute, 30 seconds, and it makes this ooey, gooey goodness that I put over vanilla frozen yogurt. I also live by the rule that the brighter the vegetable is, the healthier it is for you. We can raise our vibrations simply by the food we eat. Stop that processed garbage, food substitute, “food like product” non-sense. Start reading labels, and controlling your portion. Drink water instead of soda, and try tea instead of coffee. You want your body to be as natural, and pure as it possibly can be. Also, can we please stay away from anything GMO?

While on this topic, let me bring up drinking. I personally do not drink alcohol, I used to but have since stopped because it just isn’t for me. I think that alcohol can be detrimental to our progress on the path, and does nothing more but destroy the body, and kill the mind. I suppose some people would say the same about the weed I smoke, I guess to each their own. You do what is best for you, but all in moderation if you want to achieve real progress.

My third suggestion is meditation, or some type of “quiet” time. I know that people have lives, and I know how hard it is to meditate. I have learned that it can be extremely beneficial. For me, meditation has always been a quiet time for me to reflect. I sometimes sit in lotus flower position, I sometimes lay down it depends on my mood. The ultimate goal is to silence the mind, get through all of the racing thoughts move past the doubts, the fears and all the chatter of the outside world. Try to get to a place where all you can hear is your heart beating, and breathing; the breath is the most important focal point for the mind, they should be in synch. I like to hold two quartz points, one inward in my left hand, and the other outward in my right. I find that even though I don’t particularly get along with quartz, this recharges me.

The next suggestion is lighting. Since the pineal gland is triggered by light it is important to stimulate the gland by getting at least 15 minutes of sun light per day. But, the trick is you are to “stare” at the sun. I am not suggesting staring directly into the sun and burning your retinae, I suggest looking in the general direction of the rays. If you are in a place where there is not a lot of sunlight, or your schedule does not allow you to get this recommended light, they do have simulation light bulbs. I have a “daylight” lamp and it does wonders for my mood when I am feeling really dark.

The final suggestion that I have would be using crystals. If you use crystals specifically for the third eye, it can be especially helpful. Your third eye is responsible for intuition, visions, premonitions, dreams, spirituality, and other so-called sixth sense abilities.  Placing crystals on your forehead (brow Chakra) while you meditate or, wearing them as jewelry, enhances your spiritual senses by opening up your third eye chakra. Some crystals I suggest are: lapis lazuli, moldavite, amethyst, apophyllite, Herkimer diamond and kyanite.

The key to waking up your third eye is to be as gentle to your body as you can be, be conscious of what you are putting on and inside your body, and take time each day for yourself. No matter how much preparation you do, nothing can prepare you for the moment that eye rips open.

That is when life begins.