F*CKING: Screw Your Definition of Sacred

Matthew Gaynor

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“Sex is kicking death in the ass while singing.”

Charles Bukowski

It seems since the page has taken a different route lately that I am being met with a lot of resistance, and back lash from my readership; both males and females alike have been up in arms over the sexual content and discussions happening regularly now.

Quite frankly, I’m shocked.

I am not new to the blogging/writing world, or being an Admin and I am most certainly not new to the concept that people don’t agree with everything I post but, to see people so upset over sex, and sexual articles on an Occult page is baffling.

I thought, overall, that we were a pretty open-minded community to all kinds of taboo topics, lifestyles, and desires; even though we need to do some serious work within the community about accepting our own.

Have I underestimated my fellow Witches and Occultists, or have I just been blessed with meeting some glorious douchebags?

I wrote a little rant on the page recently, and a blog a few weeks ago that touched on this topic and I thought for sure it would die down but, it’s only gotten worse.

One comment that was made twice has been ruminating:

“The Admin of this page is promoting empty Spiritualism by promoting Whoredom. There is no such thing as a Sacred Whore.”

First of all, I was offended.

I don’t “promote” anything; I tell my story from my perspective with a splash of practical advice and interesting articles I find along the way.

I have stated MANY times that I don’t want people to think like me, therefore what do I promote?

Whatever. I let that part go but, empty Spiritualism?

There is nothing empty about me,

Or my page.

Let’s make one thing clear: Consensual Sex is always Sacred.

Yup, even drunken one night stands; the boring, the passionate, the sloppy, the kinky, the sweaty and everything in between—it’s ALL Sacred.

You can give it pretty names like “making love” or “physical union” or you can simply say fucking–either way, it all originates from the same place, and it truly is all Sacred.

Let us not forget the emotional part though; different types of sex do require different emotional responses and sex is an amazing outlet to express oneself.

I debated with one guy who commented and his rebuttal at one point was, “by commercializing sex (ie. Sex work, prostitution, etc.) and engaging in casual sexual activity that it took away the sanctity of it all.”

I couldn’t disagree more.

Sidenote: sex work is work and I fully support sex worker’s rights.

There are many facets and layers to sex, sexual acts and sexual desires.

Sex is not “one size fits all”.

As stated in posts before if there is suppression of emotional, physical or Spiritual trauma that is causing the sexual promiscuity or perversion, if you will, then the issue needs to be addressed so that you can heal and move on.

But, if you happen to just really like sex, if you happen to just like multiple partners, or kink, or orgies, or anything else that your heart desires simply because it feels good and it is what YOU WANT TO DO, then more power to you!

To be inclusive, if you aren’t interested in sex and are a-sexual, or gray ace, more power to you, too!

Sex and sexual identity are complex issues.

Back to my point, the thought that I’m promoting “empty spiritualism” is crazy…

True spirituality is found in living, breathing, and becoming our most authentic self; one could say that Nirvana could be reached by this very practice.

Our truest, most authentic self is the pathway to our higher self which is the gateway to ascension.

Maybe my authentic self is being celibate for now or forever, maybe yours is one partner, maybe someone else’s is fucking the whole neighborhood; we each experience sex differently and no one way is the right way.

Our sexual Self is our primal nature embodied; it’s one of the rawest, truest forms of expression (this part is key which is why I said it twice).

As for commercializing sex as said in the comment, I don’t see a problem with it. People have exchanged sexual favors for money/goods/status since the beginning of recorded human history.

Let me point out that I am not including the horrific practice of sex trafficking (obviously) nor am I suggesting that there is no such a thing as forced prostitution; something that is very dangerous for the worker.

My keywords here are: safe and consensual.

I am talking about the fact that there *is* such a thing as safe, consensual sex work (regardless if it is illegal or considered immoral by some standards).

And, I personally do not think that money being involved takes away from the act being Sacred.

Since when does Sacred mean unity with one other person under specific circumstances, candles lit all around, and chanting some Ancient hymns?

Why can’t someone’s Sacred be wild, passionate fucking and/or multiple partners?

We all get off on different things, and I think that just like sex, Sacred is subjective.

When we start to force yet another stereotype of how we “should be” we lose sight of who we are.

We all judge people to one degree or another it’s human nature but, we really need to get over ourselves and stop judging people for their sexual desires and what they choose to do as a consenting adult.

Judging someone based upon the type of sex they have is self-righteous, sanctimonious, and rooted in superiority; not to mention it’s none of our goddamn business.

To sum it up, sex is energy, Sacred energy at that; energy may change but it always remains.

Certain situations make the energy more potent than others but it’s Sacred, even when it makes you uncomfortable and challenges your moral compass.

If you are projecting your morality on to others, something tells me your true motives need to be brought to light and questioned.

“Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people we personally dislike.”

Oscar Wilde


Lessons in Magick: Morals, Ethics, and Magickal Attacks

Stacey Shipp

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“So far, about morals, I know only that what is moral is what you feel good after and what is immoral is what you feel bad after.”

Ernest Hemingway

I am going to take this time to write about a topic that I think is long overdue. This opinion piece may cause you to feel some type of way.

Meaning, it will conjure emotions and provoke thought.

Topic is: Morals, Ethics (what they are and how they are different), Magickal attacks and how they all effect each other.

I am a Luciferian Witch, devotee of La Santisima Muerte and a Shaivite Hindu who incorporates many aspects of different traditions into my Magickal workings and personal Philosophy.

I am not part of a group, coven, sect, or any other social organization.

I do not adhere to “do no harm” as I believe those who cannot curse, cannot cure; you cannot do one without efficiently being able to practice the other.

I know many of you have just scoffed at such a concept, but it’s true.

When you are being attacked by a Spirit, fellow Witch, or an onslaught of negativity from wherever or whatever, you let me know how well that “do no harm” works for you.

I am not trying to mock another path but there are times when Wiccans become the Christians of Witchcraft and either judge us (ie. those who will hex, curse, defend themselves) or condemn our personal decisions, as if they are the morality police. (Yes, I know, not all Wiccans).

It’s really, really common. Like I said, not trying to mock paths, just calling it how I see it.

And, to be fair, I know some fiercely badass Wiccans.

A Witch is free to do what they see fit without being judged by others for it.

However, this is where it becomes blurred.

It seems that some people have lost all sense of ethical thinking, and have absolutely no moral compass.

So, on one side we have people (not necessarily just Wiccans) finger pointing for our decisions to do harm if the need arises; on the other side we have people who are hex-happy and have absolutely no sense of right and wrong, good or bad (no matter how subjective they may be).

It’s like we are suddenly defending ourselves from every direction.

Now, let’s talk about morals and ethics and how they are different.

Morals: “The rules of conduct recognized in respect to a particular class of human actions or a particular group or culture”.

Ethics: “Principles or habits with respect to right or wrong conduct. While morals also prescribe dos and don’ts, morality is ultimately a personal compass of right and wrong”.

Get it?

Ethics are based upon an external source and/or influence; be it society, peers, or just your general environment (nature/nurture type thing).

Morals are your personal compass; how YOU, as an individual, view right and wrong, good and bad (or evil– interchangeable in this context).

As a walker of the Left Hand Path, I am all for the individual, but I am not for the individual who is a douchebag playing with Magick, attacking fellow Witches all because they have Ego and are oozing with jealousy; the weak always feel the need to prey on the strong, which is the dumbest logic ever.

Newsflash: there will ALWAYS be a stronger Witch out there.

Deal with it, accept it and move the fuck on.

After talking to a few fellow Witches, I found out that “Witch wars” are actually really common. I was shocked and horrified.

I have experienced this firsthand when some Witches had the nerve to come after me.

I am not suggesting that we all begin to think the same way, but I do believe there needs to be a baseline established of what is and is not acceptable conduct for a Witch.

Rules of engagement, maybe?


I look out at our community and the behavior I see sometimes is absolutely disgusting.

Whether you believe in do no harm, or will fuck someone up with a hex, just because you CAN do Magick doesn’t always mean you should.

Unless someone has attacked you first, unless you are under direct threat, there is NO need to send Daemons, bind Spirits, or attempt to hex another Witch (basic examples).

Drop the egos, and jealousy; that is usually where Magickal attacks stem from, anyways.

Rarely are these wars actually warranted, or have any merit whatsoever but the aftermath is tangible and tragic.

Is it really worth it? Are those few minutes, hours, possibly days draining another Witch of their energy really worth the wrath that will be unleashed when they come back to full power?

Just because a Witch has no coven doesn’t mean that Witch has no backup.

Like attracts like: Strong Witches attract other Strong Witches, unfortunately we also attract parasites.

It is a fine art to decipher the two.

For me, I know a strong Witch because I will not like them when we first meet; if I click immediately I know something is wrong.

I have always been proven right with this theory, not suggesting it works for everyone.

When we attack our Sisters and Brothers it is like spitting on the Craft itself, on our Ancestors and all they fought and died for.

Again, I am not saying we need to be all peace and love, blessed be, and full of light, but goddammit stop attacking each other without reason.

When you become power hungry in the Craft, that power will consume you and it’ll be your downfall.

As I mentioned above, there will ALWAYS be a Witch stronger than you.

Stop poking your wands where they don’t belong or you might poke a Beast you cannot put back to sleep.