PAY ATTENTION, WITCH: 3 Pitfalls of Witchcraft

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“To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work.”
Mary Oliver

There is so much that I love about the Witch community, but there are a lot of issues that need to be resolved, too. In an ideal world I would like to see more unity, and less divisiveness but that doesn’t look like it will resolve itself anytime soon; mostly because that’s a human issue, not solely a Witch issue.

I am not naïve enough to believe we will attain some kumbaya status, but there, at the very least, should be respect for other’s traditions, experiences, and practices.

I have been guilty in the past of making fun of Wiccans, for example, mostly in a light-hearted way because I was being attacked from every direction by superiority police whom happened to be Wiccan.

I’m not saying all Wiccans are like this, but all the people who felt the need to judge my way of life and practice have been Wiccan.

It was hard at first to make the distinction, so I lumped them all together; in a very similar fashion they seemed to lump me in with the LHP, Luciferian and Occult communities.

I try to take a more diplomatic stance on “the shit I talk” because everyone is entitled to *their* experience; if they decide to become self-righteous, then I will handle it how I see fit.

Otherwise, live and let live.

Rolling your eyes when necessary helps, too.

I also try hard to educate when and where I can, it’s imperative as a public figure to not feed the fire *all the time*.

Sometimes, we must learn to neutralize the fire and save our energy for bigger fights.

This blog is one way I hope to combat some of the main issues plaguing our community.

Do I believe I am the solution? Not at all.

Do I believe this blog will suddenly solve the problems in our community? Nope.

I do believe this will start an important conversation, debate and reflection.

Which is a win I will take.

I have compiled a very abbreviated list of the main issues I have observed playing out within our community, and in many cases, the Spiritual community at large.

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Spiritual Bypassing: This is the idea that you use Spiritual ideas to avoid handling/healing/confronting emotional wounds, trauma and conflict. A clear example of this is the love and light only crew; this is a group of people who completely deny the existence and necessity of the darkness, or Shadows.

Conversely, there is a large group of people that are darkness only, and they completely avoid the higher vibrations of love and light.

Yes, there are many people who are so accustomed to their pain that they fear being happy; they don’t know who they are without their trauma.

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I know this to be true because I used to be one of those people; you don’t get to know the dark as intimately as I do without having immersed your mind, body and soul in it while dismissing all aspects of light/perceived light.

Spiritual bypassing also takes the form of denying ego—something we all have, and an aspect of ourselves that should be fed, not starved; a starved animal is dangerous.

Anyone who teaches their way as being the only way to attain (insert Spiritual promise here) is lying to you.

There are a million different roads that all lead to the destination of Spiritual Enlightenment and the reason so many roads exist is because we must pave our own way, using those who came before us as guidance.

This isn’t a contest, this isn’t a race; this is a winding journey that will take you to highs and lows you never imagined possible, and a reward you never knew existed.

Remember, the essence of the Spiritual journey comes from within, not without; while people and our outer world are great teachers, they are not and should not be our compass.

Our intuition is our compass, use it freely.

Angela

You need a Coven: This is probably one of the most annoying pitfalls within the community, and it trips a lot of people up. The idea that one needs a Coven to be taken seriously is not new, and if you choose to get into a debate with someone over it, I bet it will turn heated rather quickly.

Not only does this effect the Witch community, but it effects the Occultist community, too.

I have met people who introduce themselves by their name, and then the list of secret societies/organizations they are part of or worked with and by the time they are done listing their pretentious titles I have lost interest because honestly, who the fuck cares?

I mean, of course I care but not when I meet you.

You should be proud of your accomplishments and accolades, but to lead with that?

To have that be your introduction?

It’s arrogant as fuck.

You know that saying that wealth is quiet? And, how I have said in the past that truth is quiet because it’s truth and there is no need to boast?

Power is quiet, too.

Real power, real Magick is quiet because it knows the strength it wields, it respects itself enough to know the damage it can do.

We should be like that.

We should respect ourselves, our Power and our Magick enough to shut up occasionally and let them do the talking for us without using any words.

Covens can be an amazing tool, and asset but in my experience, they are often lead by power hungry individuals who do not see their fellow members as equals but almost like slaves.

I have seen disastrous Witch Wars come from Coven fallouts, and most of the time all because they denied their ego. The irony? Their ego is what killed them.

And, yes, there are people out there who genuinely get something from being in a Coven, and yes there are even a few Covens in existence not plagued by ego, power struggle and hierarchies, but they are few and far between, and they do not define you.

THEY DO NOT DEFINE YOU.

You define you; the company you keep can be an indicator but not a definition.

COVENS DO NOT HOLD ALL THE POWER.

You hold the power.

You decide how to use it.

Make sure to use it wisely, or it will use you.

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Your expertise is based on the number of followers you have: This is real ya’ll.

THIS IS REAL!

This obviously pertains more so to those like me, who are in the public eye, but it’s important to address all the same.

It’s probably one of the biggest issues in our community right now.

In the age of Social Media, and Instagram Witches we are being judged by the number of followers we have; we are not taken seriously unless, across all platforms we have a huge following.

I have been all but snubbed in the Instagram arena because the following I have on Fb doesn’t translate over; mostly because I wasn’t and still am not super active on Instagram.

The heavy hitters on that platform won’t support baby pages like mine, and honestly?

It makes me fucking laugh.

Their worth is put into numbers and an algorithm.

What happens if IG were to disappear tomorrow? Or Fb for that matter?

What would they do then?

I have a Shop, Courses, Published Books and a blog where my heart and Soul live outside my body.

What do they have when it’s all gone? When the filters fade? When the pretty pictures are no longer considered pretty?

I have missed opportunities with Magazines because of this; only for them to see my Fb and blog and suddenly they come back with, “Oh, sorry, we didn’t know your reach as an influencer. We would love to have you!”

That’s an actual quote.

And, this happened not once, but TWICE.

I have been dismissed by some people in the community, only to be given a stamp of approval later because someone, considered more prominent, gave me a shout out.

What a herd mentality.

The numbers on Social Media are essentially arbitrary; meaning, you can’t do anything with them.

You can’t live off them, you can’t cash them in at a bank, you can’t put them on a resume.

They have meaning in the sense that (in my case) 45 thousand people have resonated with my work, and what I share, and they have chosen to include me on their journey; to use me as inspiration and motivation to keep going.

They have chosen to learn from me and my experiences, and that’s a great honor.

I will carry that with me forever.

At the end of the day, I do this because it’s needed; because the Soul cry deep within tells me that people need to hear my voice.

So, in that regard the numbers have meaning on so many emotional levels, but not in the real world.

Even still, we are judged because of them.

Another way we are judged is who we are friends with.

It’s like, in a professional sense, if you are not friends with other high caliber public figures, then you aren’t taken seriously.

For this reason alone, it makes me want to keep to myself even more than I already do.

Don’t judge me based on who I am friends with. Don’t judge me based on numbers on a screen.

Don’t judge me based on anything other than the words I write, and who I am as a person.

I do not seek approval. I do not beg to be seen. I do not need to be loud.

I am who I am, and you either take it or leave it.

Numbers don’t define me, or my power because truth is quiet, and I am truth.

LESSONS IN MAGICK: Spiritual Elitism

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“Feelings of superiority always stem from an illusion.”

Marty Rubin

Narcissism seems to be everywhere lately and so it only makes sense that it has found its way into the Spiritual world.

I like to address issues that I see arise in our community because it’s a way to open dialogue and allow people the opportunity to grow, and change.

Isn’t that the point of our journeys anyways? To become better versions of ourselves?

How is that possible if we do not grow? If we do not face all facets of our being?

Everybody has an ego, and the ones who deny theirs are the ones I trust the least.

I prefer someone so in touch with their ego that they come off as a narcissistic, passive aggressive douchebag than deal with someone who says they have no ego at all.

And, the irony of this is that for a long, long time I was afraid to feed my own ego and so I would deny its existence in a sense; I knew it was there, I knew I had one, I just preferred to avoid that part of my Soul.

It bit me in the ass.

Hard.

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Our ego must be fed to be kept in line; it cannot be denied, and it cannot be overindulged.

I believe, personally, when we are talking about ego, it epitomizes the term “everything in moderation”.

Ego must be dosed out in moderation, and in desperate times only; especially for Spiritual people because overfeeding our ego can lead to a variety of unsavory traits, the most notorious being Spiritual Elitism.

Spiritual Elitism is the idea that your Spiritual Philosophy and experience(s) make you more enlightened than your counterparts. Spiritual Elitists (SE’s for this article) believe that they are better than another person because they know more, have studied more, have seen more, etc.

Therefore, we have so many fake gurus out there; they are nothing more narcissists in disguise.

Every single person who jumps on this path for purposes of Ego will get caught, it’s inevitable.

In general, anyone who jumps on this path for the wrong reasons will get caught; either by the community itself, or by the Spirits.

You can’t proclaim enlightenment while also proclaiming that you are better than another person, or another path.

I’ve been guilty of harshly criticizing others, so I’m not throwing stones here.

I have openly cracked jokes about (some) Wiccans being the “stereotypical judgy Christians” of the Witchcraft community but I don’t think I am better than Wiccans.

I have openly talked about my disdain for organized religion, but I don’t think I am better than followers of Abrahamic faiths, or those who want religion (of any kind) in their life.

I’m still working through wounds the Roman Catholic Church left me with.

Ironically, working with Saints has helped bring clarity.

My point is, I approach everyone as if we are on equal playing ground.

I know, I know, I can hear the gasps now.

“Not everyone deserves to be treated like we play on the same field and at the same level!”

“They have to earn my respect!”

And on, and on, and on, and on…

I treat everyone as an equal for four reasons: people will surprise you, people will let you down, people have endless potential and, it’s the right fucking thing to do.

We live in a world that divides and defines us, I prefer to give people more than that when I interact with them on a personal level.

I want people to know that they are seen, that they are more than those labels slapped on them.

SE’s are all about the labels, too. That’s what makes them stand out the most; they thrive off being different than others.

They are the ones who even among fellow Witches and Mystics are the “rarest, most special” and usually claim to have a direct connection to a deity that no one else can have a connection with. Iftentimes, the deity in question is one who is worshiped by millions across the world, and so, it makes it all the more unbelievable but easier to detect.

I, like many of you, have connections to deities but I do not believe I am the only one, I do not believe I am special because of those connections; I believe I am in tune.

And, I am in tune because I have worked my ass off to find that frequency.

As for labels, I use them but I don’t believe they make me special—they help people understand.

I like to know how people identify themselves because it helps me understand; I don’t limit them to those definitions though, just like they should not limit me to mine, either.

There is a way to be enlightened, and have a fulfilling Spiritual life without having an elitist complex that makes you live under the impression you are somehow better than another person.

I feel like, even for those of us who walk the LHP, that is the exact opposite of what our end goal is.

We are not here to be better than anyone else, we are here to be better than previous versions of ourselves.

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As I have said many times in the past, I stumbled into this role of being a mentor, and teacher but I have slowly learned to embrace it.

People ache for connection, and to have someone they can run things by regarding Magick, ritual, dreams, experiences, etc.

If I can be that person, cool; if the page I have created can be that refuge, even better.

If people become better versions of themselves because of the topics brought up, the goal has been met.

I don’t need or want followers, I don’t need or want people to worship me or bow at my feet, I don’t need or want to be applauded or pat on the back, I don’t need or want to be praised for how (insert butt kissing compliment here) I am:

I want people to step onto the path to find their truth, open the door, light their fire, and burn in it.

We must become torches in these times of darkness.